Half Past Dead 2 – DVD (Good Quality), iPod/iPhone Version
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IMDB rating: 4.10 Plot: Long time inmate Twitch (Kurupt) gets himself transfered to a tougher prison than the re-opened Alcatraz. He claims it’s to be closer to his lady but his real motives are a bit more grandiose. There he crosses paths with Burke (Bill Goldberg) a bulky prisoner who can take care of himself. Twitch, despite being less muscular, is just as mouthy and is pretty much the same. But there is a gang war brewing between the black and hispanic inmates… |
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Actors: Goldberg Bill,Kurupt,Madrid Robert,Perez Joe,Omari Morocco,Conley Jack,LaSardo Robert,Browne Kale,Torti Robert,Kenyatta Stogie,Plana Tony,Clayton Lamont,Action,
Mother tried committing suicide… Is there anything more I can do?
I am 19 years old and my mother is 56. My dad passed away when I was 16 (so it will be 3 years this December). My mom has always been an extremely depressed and angry person ever since I was a child. She has always been a very physically and emotionally abusive person towards me and she has blamed me for her being like this. She says I do not love her enough and I never come around (which is not true, for instance last week I was over there 5/7 days) And this is not the first time she has tried committing suicide. I have found her (the previous time) half dead on the floor, gasping for air after she overdosed on prescription medication. She went to rehab (I put her in) and than for about 1 month everything was great, and than she went back into her depressed self.
I have 2 brothers, but they both have their own lives. They are both in their mid 30’s they have wives and they have their children. Yes, I do have my own life too but for some reason I feel like I need to try and help my mom. The only reason my mom is alive right now is because her fiance found her and called 911 and they were able to save her. But when I go and visit her she can’t help but call me selfish for not "loving her enough"
I honestly have just given up on her, and I am to be totally honest.. I am just sick of her and and sick of being the one who tries to be the one that helps her. She thinks her life is so horrible and that everyone else’s life is just a field of roses, and it is not. She has made my life a living hell, and I have told her that. I just don’t know if I should just accept that she is going to kill herself, and just let her do it. Or is there anything I can possibly do? I just do not know anymore, on what I can do.
Sorry my question is so long! I do appreciate any answers though!
How ghastly for you, and I’m sorry to hear of your Dad’s death.
First: recognize that your mother is suffering not only from deep depression (duh) but obviously also almost certainly what’s called "borderline personality disorder". (google it).
So please recognize this: your mother cannot help the fact that she is depressed and suicidal, nor, likely, can she help the fact that she is a crazy evil b*tch.
How does this help you?
Well, recognize you can’t change her. Recognize it’s not REMOTELY your fault. (note how she blames you for her condition? I mean that is simply insane, BPD crazy b*tch stuff.)
Your "giving up on her" is in some ways the sensible thing. You can’t fix her problems; you can’t cure her.
Either genetics or horrific childhood abuse or some combination of the two made her what she was, likely before the age of 12. Nothing that you did.
Don’t be mad at your brothers. Psychologically healthy men in their 30’s will have as little to do with a crazy mom as they can, and that’s sensible. Believe it or not, but she could have messed up their lives even more than she has worked to mess up yours.
You need to recognize, moving forward, that you have endured some fairly nasty psychological abuse, and are descended from a crazy mother. The implication is obvious, but I’ll spell it out: be very careful in your relations with people. Don’t cut yourself down, don’t be a doormat, but make sure you are not behaving like your mother, especially with your husband and your own children.
Use the power of your mind to back off accusations aimed at those around you. Note how you said your mother "has made my life a living hell, and I have told her that"? That’s behaviour symptomatic of your mother. You need to avoid that kind of behaviour. You will destroy your future relationships and happiness if you don’t.
Be very aware of anything in your life that you’re drawn to that creates drama.
As for your mom? Make sure she’s seeing a therapist. Distance yourself from her, to the degree that you can. Recognize that she is crazy (in every sense of the word) and don’t respond in kind. No more "you made my life a living hell" lines with her. Be polite and calm, but distant. Talk to your brothers and the fiance and have them pay for the therapist if need be.
Love your mother, because she’s your mother, but maintain some distance because she is a crazy evil person.
I hope this helps.
HolmesIV | Oct 26, 2009
If she tried to commit suicide, then that’s an insult to everything she has worked(including her siblings). If she wants to go, let her go.
Edward | Oct 26, 2009
Talk to a guidance counselor or look online for a therapist and try and be as nice as possible towards her and don’t do anything you think will upset her. try and talk with her and do more things to make her happy. sorry for ur problem by the way
Amethyst | Oct 26, 2009
this is very sad. try to get help
steph | Oct 26, 2009
Oh my goodness, I’m sorry. I didn’t get to read your whole question, because my mom keeps nagging me to get off the computer, but I would defiantly like to try and help as much as I can..
You should tell your mom you love her, and that you are always there for her if she needs a hug or just someone to talk to. Tell her that you are by her side and in this thing together.
Make sure that she knows that someone loves her and she doesn’t need to feel this way. Spend some fun time with her to get this stuff off her mind. Watch a funny movie, or do something that she and you both enjoy. Maybe take her out to dinner or make a dinner for her.
xo_Kayla_xo | Oct 26, 2009
just go to the police and explain the situation and they should set her with a conselor and help her.out. look a lil more online and im sure you could find a number of a place that would help her….if that doesnt work or you dont want to do that. your mom has her own life and if thats the decision she wants to make then let her. you dont need to feel the way you do at your age. your absolutely right. you do have your own life. now live it. let her go. trust me. its not worth it anymore you already did enouph
Sexcmami | Oct 26, 2009
ABSOLUTELY, say this prayer with her, it has helped millions of people get through these kinds of things easily!! trust me God will help her but she needs to say the prayer. (everyone on earth needs to also)
say this prayer
you will never regret it.
Put aside your unbelief and Say this prayer so God can come into your life, He is right there waiting, hoping You will make this choice & say it.
He has a plan for your life He can and will help you with everything. He wants you to be the best you can be. He loves you and gave You free will to choose having His unfailing love in your life or not He loved you first and left the door open for you. Its up to you to walk through into His loving arms.
God can help you, If only you ask Him.
If you want to accept Christ as Savior and turn from your sins, you can ask Him to be your Savior and Lord by praying a prayer like this:
"Lord Jesus, I believe You are the Son of God. Thank You for dying on the cross for my sins. Please forgive my sins and give me the gift of eternal life. I ask You in to my life and heart to be my Lord and Savior. I want to serve You always." Amen
He helped me and I want you to feel his Love too.
Then pass on this prayer to others so they can get to know Gods unfailing love too!
cashkill | Oct 26, 2009
You have to put yourself first. There’s no shame in that.
Linz | Oct 26, 2009
Your life is hard as it is, and it’s hard to get someone out of a really deep deppresion, but the last thing to try is to pamper her… have u ever taken your mom out for a walk. or look at some really old pictures of you and her? or have you ever tried to give ur mom a pedicure or manicure? making her feel beautiful and special? Sometimes being there 5/7 days a week is not as much as doing something special to make her feel alive and beautiful. Picture yourself going thru the same deppresion. Talk to her, walk with her and pamper her. Just give her " quality time " …. I hope this helps!!!
A. Medina | Oct 26, 2009
Hey hon sounds like ur a very indeendent smart girl, you have done alot for ur mother despite her not been very kind to yu. It’s not ur fault ad she is not at a pint of comforting anyone nor looking after anyone including herself so forgive her. Did u say she has a fiance? If he is still around he may be able to look after her there is not a lot yu can do for her by yourself .. Don’t it ur life aside continue it I wish u all the best. In the meantime if u r able talk to ur brothers and get advice .. Look for annonymous coucellors on yellow pages call and seek advice to find out where you need to send ur mother for a protective care .. There should be places use the Internet to check local areas and what they offer. The last thing yuou need to do is take resonsibility by yourself as u alone will nt be helpful . I hope I was able to help yu some what! Best of luck
Red dragon | Oct 26, 2009
Hello there. I am a year younger than you and i cannot imagine how hard it is to see someone you love and you really care for go under such things.
I think you should never give up trying to help your mom.I don’t have any smart solutions to give you but i still think you should keep trying. I know, one day you will find the right approach in talking your mom around. And when you do, i’m sure she’d realize how great a daughter you have been.
kristina e | Oct 26, 2009
There is absolutely nothing anyone can do when someone wants to die. Most do not want to die. They just want to threaten, blame and make everyone around them miserable and feel responsible because they are unhappy.
Since your mom has a fiance, let him carry the load. I am surprised he puts up with it.
You need to move away, as far as you can, and quit trying to do the impossible (preventing her suicide) and quit feeling guilty about the whole thing. It will not be easy to do this. When you are not available for her to blame and threaten and call names, your mom may straighten up because she will have only herself to blame. She will either straighten up or commit suicide. Either way, it is her choice and there is nothing you can do so why should you make yourself miserable and blame yourself because she is mentally ill and does not want help. Too many people ruin their own lives feeling like they can do "something" to prevent an action by another person. If you could, you would, but you can’t do anything or make her do anything as she can’t make you do anything. Quit feeling guilty. You have done enough. Do not visit but once a week. 5/7 days is showing her how much she is in control.
Tell her you love her and are willing to HELP her when she wants to help herself but you are tired of being blamed for her unhappiness and if she starts abusing you verbally when you visit, you will not come at all. Do you think it’s worth a try?
Nurse who might know | Oct 26, 2009
Allowing your mom to drag you along on her emotional escapades isn’t doing either of you any good, most likely.
People behave in ways that they get rewarded for, even if it seems sort of hard for the rest of us to understand what the reward is. Eg. A child who is desperate for attention may misbehave because angry attention is better than no attention.
It sounds like your mom is really insecure, and afraid that she is not loved. Maybe when you take pity on her when she makes drama, including saving her from death, it gives her the reassurance she craves. Maybe she has learned that the way to get you to tell her you love her is to complain that you don’t love her. One of my friends who thought of committing suicide when he was a teenager said that it wasn’t so much that he wanted to die, but that he wanted to guilt trip the people he thought weren’t treating him well. (Except then my friend realized that was a really stupid reason to hurt himself, and didn’t do it.) I wonder if your mom’s thought process is similar.
If you want her to behave differently (towards you, at least) maybe it’s time to change what you reward. Make a point of leaving or ending a phone call if she starts acting mean or moaning about how horrible everything is, instead of trying to appease her and cheer her up. Be consistent. And when your mom acts nice, make a point of hanging out a little longer and saying nice things to her. Maybe in time she will learn to be pleasant with you, and that will be a step towards having a more positive approach to life.
You might also try sticking a number for a suicide prevention hotline on her fridge. Maybe next time she feels like she needs a serious fix of validation, she’ll call them up and talk about it instead of overdosing.
Anne | Oct 26, 2009